Hi Friends Daring Greatly is a book which offers insight to the readers about accepting their weaknesses and encourages them to dare greatly in life. The author says “When we shut ourselves from vulnerability, we distance ourselves from the experience that brings purpose and meaning to our lives.”
What It Means to Dare Greatly
“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”
The phrase Daring Greatly is from Theodore Roosevelt’s speech “Citizenship in a Republic.” The speech, sometimes referred to as “The Man in the Arena,” was delivered at the Sorbonne in Paris, France, on April 23, 1910.
Vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement.
Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection.
What is Vulnerability (the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.)
When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make.
Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience. We must walk into the arena, whatever it may be—a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation—with courage and the willingness to engage.
Rather than sitting on the side-lines and hurling judgment and advice, we must dare to show up and let ourselves be seen. This is vulnerability. This is daring greatly.
Review Daring Greatly
In Daring Greatly, The book will help readers accept their weaknesses, combat shame and live wholeheartedly. She argues that, in truth, vulnerability is strength and when we shut ourselves off from vulnerability –
from revealing our true selves –
We distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives. The book Daring Greatly will help the readers face their demons and face challenges more confidently.
Chapter Summary Daring Greatly
Now lets go to the chapters wise summary of the book Daring Greatly by BRENÉ BROWN, here from the chapter one Scarcity: Looking Inside Our Culture of “Never Enough”
Summary Daring Greatly Chapter 1 Scarcity: Looking Inside
Our Culture of “Never Enough”
The author starts this Chapter with an Idiom “YOU CAN’T SWING A CAT WITHOUT HITTING THE NARCISSIST.”
In this particular instance, the cat-swinging was triggered when a woman from the audience shouted out, “The kids today think they’re so special. What’s turning so many people into narcissists?” My less-than-stellar response verged on smart-alecky:
“Yeah. You can’t swing a cat without hitting a narcissist.” But it stemmed from a frustration that I still feel when I hear the term narcissism thrown around.
Facebook is so narcissistic. Why do people think what they’re doing is so important? The kids today are all narcissists. It’s always me, me, me. My boss is such a narcissist. She thinks she’s better than everyone and is always putting other people down.
The Three Components of Scarcity
There are three components of scarcity and Brene Brown invites us to use them to assess the social groups we’re part of:
Shame:
Is fear of ridicule and belittling used to manage people and/or to keep people in line? Is self-worth tied to achievement, productivity, or compliance? Are blaming and finger-pointing norms? Are put-downs and name-calling rampant? What about favouritism? Is perfectionism an issue?
Comparison:
Healthy competition can be beneficial, but is there constant overt or covert comparing and ranking? Has creativity been suffocated?
Are people held to one narrow standard rather than acknowledged for their unique gifts and contributions? Is there an ideal way of being or one form of talent that is used as measurement of everyone else’s worth?
Disengagement:
Are people afraid to take risks or try new things? Is it easier to stay quiet than to share stories, experiences, and ideas? Does it feel as if no one is really paying attention or listening? Is everyone struggling to be seen and heard?
Summary Daring Greatly Chapter Chapter 2: Debunking the Vulnerability Myths
MYTH #1: “VULNERABILITY IS WEAKNESS.”
The perception that vulnerability is weakness is the most widely accepted myth about vulnerability and the most dangerous.
When we spend our lives pushing away and protecting ourselves from feeling vulnerable or from being perceived as too emotional, we feel contempt when others are less capable or willing to mask feelings, suck it up, and soldier on.
We’ve come to the point where, rather than respecting and appreciating the courage and daring behind vulnerability, we let our fear and discomfort become judgment and criticism.
I know this is hard to believe, especially when we’ve spent our lives thinking that vulnerability and weakness are synonymous, but it’s true. I define vulnerability as uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.
MYTH #2: “I DON’T DO VULNERABILITY”
When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability. To be alive is to be vulnerable. —Madeleine L’Engle
MYTH #3: VULNERABILITY IS LETTING IT ALL HANG OUT
Vulnerability is based on mutuality and requires boundaries and trust. It’s not oversharing, it’s not purging, it’s not indiscriminate disclosure, and it’s not celebrity-style social media information dumps.
Vulnerability is about sharing our feelings and our experiences with people who have earned the right to hear them. Being vulnerable and open is mutual and an integral part of the trust- building process.
MYTH #4: WE CAN GO IT ALONE
Going it alone is a value we hold in high esteem in our culture, ironically even when it comes to cultivating connection, In reality, walking alone can feel miserable and depressing, but we admire the strength it conveys, and going it alone is revered in our culture.
Well, as much as I love the idea of walking alone down a lonely street of dreams, the vulnerability journey is not the kind of journey we can make alone. We need support. We need folks who will let us try on new ways of being without judging us. We need a hand to pull us up off the ground when we get kicked down.
Summary Daring Greatly Chapter Chapter 3: Understanding and Combating Shame
Shame derives its power from being unspeakable. That’s why it loves perfectionists—it’s so easy to keep us quiet. If we cultivate enough awareness about shame to name it and speak to it, we’ve basically cut it off at the knees.
Shame hates having words wrapped around it. If we speak shame, it begins to wither. Just the way exposure to light was deadly for the gremlins, language and story bring light to shame and destroy it.
How to Combat Shame
Brene Brown defines shame resilience as the ability to stay authentic and stick to our values when experiencing shame.
And coming out of the shame experience with more courage, compassion and connection than we had before.
The final step is then to move from shame to empathy, which is the real antidote to shame.
Brene Brown says indeed that shame is a social emotion, and it needs social healing. To overcome it we need to share the shame story with someone who can listen with empathy.
Here are the four elements of shame resilience—the steps don’t always happen in this order, but they always ultimately lead us to empathy and healing:
1.Recognizing Shame and Understanding Its Triggers.
Shame is biology and biography. Can you physically recognize when you’re in the grips of shame, feel your way through it, and figure out what messages and expectations triggered it?
2.Practicing Critical Awareness.
Can you reality-check the messages and expectations that are driving your shame? Are they realistic? Attainable? Are they what you want to be or what you think others need/want from you?
3.Reaching Out.
Are you owning and sharing your story? We can’t experience empathy if we’re not connecting.
4. Speaking Shame.
Are you talking about how you feel and asking for what you need when you feel shame?
Summary Daring Greatly Chapter 4: The Vulnerability Armor’s
As children we found ways to protect ourselves from vulnerability, from being hurt, diminished, and disappointed. We put on armour; we used our thoughts, emotions, and behaviours as weapons; and we learned how to make ourselves scarce, even to disappear.
Now as adults we realize that to live with courage, purpose, and connection—to be the person whom we long to be—we must again be vulnerable. We must take off the armour, put down the weapons, show up, and let ourselves be seen.
Daring Greatly Brene talks about how we try to avoid and protect ourselves from vulnerability.
THE COMMON VULNERABILITY SHIELDS THE SHIELD: FOREBODING JOY: It feels safer to wallow in a sad or grey state rather than being happy and risking sad.
DARING GREATLY: PRACTICING GRATITUDE
1. Joy comes to us in moments—ordinary moments. We risk missing out on joy when we get too busy chasing down the extraordinary.
2. Be grateful for what you have.
3. Don’t squander joy.
THE SHIELD: PERFECTIONISM
We use perfectionism as a shield when we -mistakenly- believe that if we can just be perfect we will avoid the painful feeling of shame because we’ll only get love and compliments. But we’ll never be perfect, and if we wait we might sacrifice relationships and opportunities that might never come back.
Self Compassion and a sense of worthiness no matter what.
Quotes From The Book Daring Greatly
Here are the some quotes rom the book Daring Greatly
“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”
“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”
“The willingness to show up changes us, It makes us a little braver each time.”
CONCLUSION
So friends this is the end of the summary of the book Daring Greatly by BRENÉ BROWN, its only five chapter out of 7 , if you want to read this book fully click here DARING GREATLY to buy, the provide summary is just basic of points ,you have to read by your self to gain full principle by this book Daring Greatly and applied in your life , and lastly thank you.